The New Mum Adjustment

7 Sep

I was inspired to write this post this morning. I was thinking about how much my life has changed since I had my kids, and how it is still changing, and how long it can seem to be before you start to get things back into balance.  I found it a real struggle at first, but wanted to send out hope to new mums (and dads) that it does get easier to fit things into your life that are all about nurturing you.  Happy Wife, Happy Life right 🙂

We live in a good suburb, but don’t have a lot of spare cash, so things like House Cleaners, Nanny etc are out of our reach.  Even going to the gym post giving birth was near impossible for me as on top of fees, there was always a charge for child-minding services, which we could not afford.

I found a good gym for me in Contours.  My husband works late and odd hours so my only option had to be before he went to work. It is based on a standard 30 minute circuit work-out, so it’s easy to know when you will be back home and you don’t have to wake up super early to get there.  I have made some great friend to chat to, and I don’t think any of them have young children, so children are not Hot Topic in the mornings.  It’s nice to have an adult conversation in the morning!

Walking is good too, but with more than one child at home, it can be limiting.  This year with one at home I have been able to walk more.  I usually do I nice big walk to the Supermarket on a Monday morning (weather permitting of course).  This also has the benefit of being able to buy something fresh for dinner.

This year I have been able to add one Yoga class a week to my routine.  Next year I may be able to do one more! I love Yoga and have looked for about 3 years to find a class with a time, price and level that suited me. Your local community centre is a great place to look, as some may have classes and a child-minding service and they are usually a whole lot cheaper that privately owned businesses.

Aromatherapy has been a great one for me too.  Over the past year I have slowly been bringing it into our home for all kinds of things, it’s not all about the smells.  It’s been great creating my own medicinal fixes for my family and it has lead into other parts of my life being healthier.  I get my supplies via Amazing Scents which give me the added bonus of a night out shopping with no kids (or kids in bed) and I’m up for any excuse to get out the cheese and crackers!

One thing we over look it the humble bath.  But lets face it, with babies and toddlers having a bath all to yourself is nearly impossible.  I have made a major effort lately to incorporate a bath into my day.  I use the time that Hubby get home to run off and hide for a while while he settles in.  I mix up and oil mix and pull out some old magazine (still wrapped in their subscription packing from when the kids were babies and I never had a change to read them!).  It may take a bit of getting use to as we are always in gear, but it doesn’t take long to train yourself to lay there for 20 mins or so.  The magazines help the brain shift gear too.

So be patient, it will slowly happen and you will find yourself working things back into your life that help clear your mind and help you to feel a bit more like you.

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Earthquake in Christchurch NZ

6 Sep

If you would like to help our neighbours inNew Zealand I have found a donation point within NZ.

New Zealand Red Cross

You can make a secure Credit Card donation from there…just follow the links.

Somerville Pub

1 Sep

Firstly, I have to say this place has the best steak!  Hubby said it last time, so this time I tried one too.  It was perfectly cooked and I recommend it.  There is also a play area for the kids, but be warned, it is full of lolly machines.

The kids menu was pretty good for a pub meal, we did have the option of Roast and Veggies.  Perfect.  We ordered this for our daughter (the other child stayed at home with her Nan).  We had a great laugh though when the meal came out with a single serve of tomatoe sauce…it was like they just couldn’t help but add a bit of junk to an otherwise healthy meal.  Vegetables and Salads are available as an alternative with the kid’s meal.  I just notices on a photo I took of the menu, that a soft drink is comes with the meal (we did not receive ours) It would be interesting to see if juice would be an option.  There is free water available at the bar.

For desert there was no Fruit Salad as an option, and when I asked if they could do one the answer was no.  I didn’t push it, as I said earlier, our sick child stayed home and there was birthday cake to be had.  Their deserts were pre-made in a fridge, you had a choice of Cake, Jelly and some cream like dish.  There is also a Ice-Cream freeze with IcyPoles etc.

Name and Shame…or Praise

31 Aug

Tonight is a family birthday dinner.  This means a bunch of us all meet up at a local venue for dinner, more often than not they are ‘child’ friendly places.

My eldest is struggling with her lungs again, we have been lucky enough to avoid asthma, but she has a virus.  I try to avoid diary with her as it creates mucus and I ban it all together when she is coughing and not breathing well.  So…I tell her this morning that she will not be able to have Ice-Cream with her dinner, she was a little bit upset by this as we don’t usually have Ice-Cream in the house and it’s a nice treat when we are out.  In short her younger sister and I said we would support her by not having Ice-Cream either.  (And they know how much their mother adores Ice-Cream!)  Together we came up with a plan…Mummy will ask if we can have fruit salad with some chocolate sauce on top.  I know that the sauce is likely to come straight from a bottle, but I was on a good run and weighed up that tonight it’s better than Ice-Cream.

Now I’m a little stressed that we may not be able to get a healthy alternative as a treat, what if the Chef says no? I don’t remember it being on the menu last time we went.  With that in mind I have decided that I will start-up a ‘Name and Shame’ category.  We eat out on average once a week and so I can hopefully get a few places around the Peninsula and Melbourne that look after our kids.  We have been to places before where we have had to order an adults meal for the kids, just so they weren’t eating deep fried frozen foods.

I will let you know tomorrow how we go.

Is it really me??

26 Aug

Husband comes home yesterday and drops it into conversation that he has been nominated as a “Young Gun” in our local business awards.  Instead of being really happy for him and showering him in all the kisses and ego boast that he could stand, I wanted to slap him…and spat out something along the lines of “It’s nice to be recognised for all the work you do isn’t it”.  What? Who have I become?

You see, when I meet my husband he was working as a mechanic for someone else, he had just been head hunted and was pretty well-respected.  As our relationship grew stronger and we started planning a serious future together, I ‘nudged’ him into buying a business.  We had all these great ideas and I was to run the business side of things, while he did all the labour.  This worked for us (well, it kind of worked – but that’s another story) for around 4 years before I surprisingly fell pregnant.  So I gave birth and started doing the book work from home.

Now over the years, it’s slowly turned into ‘his’ business.  Friends, Family, customers, the cats all call it ‘his’ business.  And right about now I want to stand on my soap box and tell the whole peninsula that it is in fact OUR business and it would not have even started if it wasn’t for me.

I know it all sounds so petty.  But, this stay at home mum/wife/dogs body is a complete mind…um…you know.

I feel I am officially that women….you know….the one that stands behind every great man.  And I always thought I would be that great woman that could do it without a man.

Snack Bar Fail

19 Aug

They didn’t work.  I think they taste ok, but the kids won’t have a bar of them 🙂 Pun intended.  I think they are pretty nice though.

I am on a mission now to make them work.  This batch was to oily from the butter, I will put in less next time and some more kid friendly seeds.

Rainy Days

15 Aug

So it’s a rainy Sunday and the man of the house is out with his buddies playing paint ball.  As girls are stuck at home as one of our kiddie car seats is sitting in the bath after getting wee scrubbed out of it yesterday :S  So what do you do….?  We got out the ‘crafting box’…a box filled with all the girls clue, sparkles, paints etc and they are making a magnificent mess and some beautiful creations.

I’m in the kitchen trying to create a tasty and healthy ‘snack bar’, otherwise know as a Muesli Bar for snack time & lunches.  I have adjusted a recipe that I pinched out of a magazine somewhere…and when I saw adjusted I mean butchered.  I have only half the ingredients needed so I have thrown in whatever I had in the pantry.  I wont be able to finish the job…because I haven’t got a substitute for the honey.

3 hours later….

Well, it tastes good, the toasted Muesli that is.  As far as making the bars…I’m still waiting on the honey.

The girls like it so far.  For lunch I sprinkled some on their yogurt.  We also decided that it would be good for the school lunch box.  I will have to make a special mix for the school as I have put Macadamia Nuts in this mix and they might not be so ‘peanut free zone’ friendly.

If it works, I will share the recipe with you tomorrow.  Who knows, I may even post a photo too.